January 20, 2010- Anywhere, USA- Bad people can only want three things from you. Your money/property, your body or your life. Consider this. Bad guys don't want three things- for it to take to long, to get hurt or get caught. Knowing this can be helpful for assessing your vulnerability at a given point. There are pre-attack indicators that bad guys use and I have found a good video of some of them. Notice how common sense plays into noticing what the pre-attack indicators are. remember to use your instinct, intuition and intelligence to solve a problem.
Many of the concepts that I teach are based upon conflict research of Tony Blauer, who I train under.
Bad things happen and it is important to not be in denail. Be observant and aware. Trust your instinct and remember that bad situations call for uncommon self defense. Any victim of an attack must also be concerned about the "secondary location." This is where a bad guy might take you after the initial attack. Remember the money, body life analogy? It is estimated that over 3% of the world's socient are sociopaths. Consider the following:
Psychopathy (pronounced /saɪˈkɒpəθi/[1][2]) is a personality disorder whose hallmark is a lack of empathy. Researcher Robert Hare, whose Hare Psychopathy Checklist is widely used, describes psychopaths as "intraspecies predators[3][4] who usecharisma, manipulation, intimidation, sexual intercourse and violence[5][6][7] to control others and to satisfy their own needs. Lacking in conscience and empathy, they take what they want and do as they please, violating social norms and expectations without guilt or remorse".[8] "What is missing, in other words, are the very qualities that allow a human being to live in social harmony."[9] ~ wikidepia
The prototypical psychopath has deficits or deviances in several areas: interpersonal relationships, emotion, and self-control. Psychopaths gain satisfaction through antisocial behavior, and do not experience shame, guilt, or remorse for their actions.[15][16][17] Psychopaths lack a sense of guilt or remorse for any harm they may have caused others, instead rationalizing the behavior, blaming someone else, or denying it outright.[18] Psychopaths also lack empathy towards others in general, resulting in tactlessness, insensitivity, and contemptuousness. All of this belies their tendency to make a good, likable first impression. Psychopaths have a superficial charm about them, enabled by a willingness to say anything without concern for accuracy or truth. Shallow affect also describes the psychopath's tendency for genuine emotion to be short lived and egocentric with an overall cold demeanor. Their behavior is impulsive and irresponsible, often failing to keep a job or defaulting ondebts.[18] Psychopaths also have a markedly distorted sense of the potential consequences of their actions, not only for others, but also for themselves. They do not, for example, deeply recognize the risk of being caught, disbelieved or injured as a result of their behaviour.[19] ~ wikipedia
I stress a model that empowers people to detect, deter and defend against attack or violent behavior. The best conflict is the one where you are not involved. How does a person avoid confrontaiton all together?
- Body language: If you look like you're expecting a shakedown at any moment, you'll attract attention for all the wrong reasons. People who appear confident are less likely to invite a violent confrontation, basically because they look as if they can handle themselves. It's simply a question of walking tall, keeping your head up, and not flinching away when someone approaches to ask the time. Just be sure not to go too far, and swagger like you'll take on all contenders.
- Keep cool: Don't freak out if you find yourself in a dodgy confrontation, or enter into an argument at the bar. The aim is not to let the emotional temperature rise, because it'll also increase the risk of an escalation into violence.
- Avoid attention: So there you are, strutting down the street. You have the jewellery on show, your state of the art phone pressed to your ear, and a sign over your head that's visible to everyone but you. One that shouts; Rob me, everything must go! Street muggings don't always involve violence, of course, but you're more likely to get hurt by someone who's after your money rather than directions to the local library. Ultimately, the less conspicuous your valuables, the more likely you'll be to get from A to B in one piece. If you must carry stuff like cash, phones and credit cards, don't make a big deal of it.
- Stick with your friends: Whether you're walking home late at night, or hanging out outside a club, security comes with numbers.
- Eye contact: If you've sensed someone scooping you out, look them . Keep your head up, because the body language of confidence speaks volumes.
- Steer round big groups: You don't want to walk a path through a bunch of drunks on the street, or force them to stop or step aside. You're not royalty, just an average Joe who wants to get on in life without blood being spilled. If possible, cross the road before they've even noticed you.
- Go with your instinct: If you don't feel comfortable, whatever the situation, take steps to protect yourself. Even if it means taking the long route home, at least you'll make it in one piece!
Be safe and prepare yourself. Contact me for further training. Local, National and International.
Robb Hamic, Self-defense coach
robb@summitselfdefense.com
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